ArcaMax

Dear Amy: Two years ago, I was casually seeing a man, "Brian," for about a month's time. He was married, but intending to leave his wife. Things progressed quickly and we both acknowledged at the time that we were falling in love with each other. He ended up breaking things off with me to work things out with his wife (they have children together). I was crushed, but I understood.

It took me a long time to get over him and the guilt I held for interfering in his marriage. I heard he moved more than 1,000 miles away.

Two years later, I am in a much better place. I have a boyfriend (he's a great guy). I earned my master's degree, I have a job, and will be moving into my own place soon.

Last week, out of nowhere, I received a LinkedIn message from this man that he needed to talk to me. He wrote: "I miss you. I'm ready to talk. I hope I'm not too late."

I ignored the message, and then later that day he appeared at my workplace wanting to talk.

Embarrassed, I told him to leave and not come back.

I left work that day to find a two-page letter from him on my car, stating that walking away was the hardest thing he has ever done.

He said that his heart and soul never healed, and he hoped to talk to me.

Apparently, he took a plane that morning just to speak to me. He flew home that same night. We never spoke.

Now I don't know what to do. Should I contact him? Do I owe him anything?

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