Woman's weight suddenly bothers sick friend
-- Feeling Dissed
Dear Feeling Dissed: It is natural to feel disappointed to learn that you haven't been included in a milestone event, but you are correct when you note that a marrying couple should not have to notify people who are not invited to their small wedding.
You seem to have the idea of acknowledgment backward. It is you who should acknowledge and congratulate the couple. That's what mature, caring people from the neighborhood do. The bride can then respond by thanking you, acknowledging the role you have played in her life, and saying that she wished she could have included you.
You may receive an announcement in the mail or through social media after the fact. When you do, I hope you will respond graciously.
Dear Amy: "Battle Scarred" reported the intrusion, interruption, and accidents caused by "Nerf wars" that broke out in the offices of the Silicon Valley startup where she worked. This is the most ridiculous workplace practice I have ever heard of. Why is this tolerated?
-- Bewildered
Dear Bewildered: This is tolerated because the people running the company encourage workers to associate work with "fun." But ... only a few people at the office get to define "fun." For everyone else, it's duck and cover.
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