Woman's weight suddenly bothers sick friend
The next time you visit, make a determination to respond honestly. You can say, "You've mentioned my weight a few times now. Why is that?" He might tell you that his own health concerns have made him worry about you.
Regardless of how he responds, you should make sure he understands that you don't want to discuss it with him: "I've struggled with my weight my whole life. I don't intend to discuss this with you."
Dear Amy: My two sons and I lived in one neighborhood for more than 20 years (we recently moved to a place nearby).
"Kate," a young girl from the neighborhood, is now getting married.
Another young woman from the neighborhood recently told us that, due to finances, the young couple will be paying for their own wedding and therefore are adhering to a strict guest list.
It's apparent that we are not invited to the wedding.
We were all a bit sad when we heard this news. I completely understand their situation. I am, however, heartbroken that we got the news from a friend and not the young lady herself.
Amy, we have known her for almost her whole life! Why is she not acknowledging us?
I have not reached out to her myself, as I do not want to put her on the spot. I am just very sad, realizing that she does not care enough to acknowledge us at this milestone event in her life.
I realize that etiquette does not dictate that a future bride contact those who are not invited to the wedding. However, one would think that if there has been a close, longstanding relationship, that she could at least say something. Isn't a small acknowledgment appropriate?
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