Betrayed wife walks the road toward recovery
Dear Amy: A few months ago, my husband of 30 years told me he was in love with a friend of ours and that he planned to spend the rest of his life with her.
He moved in with her shortly after he shared this news and we have begun moving toward divorce.
My husband somehow thought that we'd all remain friends ... and was surprised that I was not happy about his newfound love.
I'm wondering how he could be so delusional (because I know if the circumstances were reversed, he'd be crazy-jealous).
What I would like help with from you -- and your readers -- is to share the best things that helped them through the insanity of a situation such as this.
I'm getting exercise, have reached out to friends, am on an antidepressant, am seeing a counselor and have begun journaling. What else can I do to take care of myself and move on?
-- K
Dear K: When I went through something similar in my own life, I self-medicated with cigarettes and wine coolers, developed chronic insomnia, went on a dating and eating binge and developed a furious lump of coal heart-hate toward my ex, while still being more or less in love with him.
So -- journaling? Friends? Exercise? Counseling? You're good.
The one thing you might rethink is the antidepressants. Are you depressed? If so, definitely take medication. If you're sad and angry, take a chance and feel your feelings, full-on.
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