Adult daughter wants birth parents to re-adopt her
Dear Amy: My wife of 20 years surrendered her daughter, "Betsy" for adoption 30 years ago.
My wife and I were reunited with Betsy 10 years ago and have become very close, although Betsy lives in a different state.
Betsy and her adoptive parents have become estranged over the past few years.
So now Betsy wants to divorce her current adoptive parents because of what she feels are irreconcilable differences, and for (future) legal reasons that also involve her daughter (who is 8 years old). The adoptive parents considered her their granddaughter, of course.
Now Betsy is asking my wife and her biological father, who has been out of the picture for 30 years, to become her new adoptive parents.
I'm very open-minded, but something doesn't feel quite right.
At first, I thought this recognition was a nice idea, but now I feel that to go before a judge and make a public statement that she and Betsy's biological father are now adoptive parents, puts me in an uncomfortable position.
I really have no idea what the legal ramifications might be for me and my wife, but really, the fact that a public statement is being made between the daughter's biological parents is what makes me most uncomfortable.
To complicate the matter further, my wife and I also have children together, and we both have children from a previous marriage.
Do you think I am being an oversensitive territorial male?
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