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Family guide to new movie releases
'MOTOR CITY'
Rated R for strong bloody violence, some grisly images, drug content, sexuality/nudity and language.
What it’s about: Set in 1977 Detroit, a factory worker wrongly imprisoned goes on a revenge spree to win back his woman.
The kid attractor factor: This is a bloody thriller — for adults, not kids.
Good lessons/bad lessons: ...Read more
Ex-etiquette: Suspicious bruises?
Q. My child’s mother recently moved in with her boyfriend, who has full custody of his three boys. Last time I picked up our son from his mother’s, I noticed suspicious bruises on his thighs and back. This is new. I don’t know if this is the result of discipline, which I absolutely do not agree with, or rough play, which is also ...Read more
Lori Borgman: When Grandpa toys with parallel parking
When my husband was asked if he would help teach twin granddaughters how to parallel park, he immediately yelled, “Yes!” If there was a parallel parking competition, my husband could take first place — unless our son entered the competition, then he’d take first place.
Our son lived in Chicago for 10 years and none of his apartment ...Read more
After her son's death, she found a new purpose. 'He's whispering, 'Mom, this is your path'
LOS ANGELES -- It was after the death of her son, Laith, that Esme Saleh decided to become a folk artist.
She had always been creative, experimenting with watercolors and learning to sew and embroider at a young age.
"I had a creative inkling," she said, "but I never pursued it."
Everything changed on Aug. 17, 2013.
When Saleh was nine ...Read more
'Dog Days': Emily LaBarge on trauma writing and trauma reading
It’s often assumed that to write a good memoir, a writer must have something happen to them. Something big, juicy, and traumatic. Something unbelievable that really happened to you. Emily LaBarge is here to critique this idea.
In her memoir, "Dog Days," LaBarge challenges the idea that writing a ‘trauma narrative’ is an act of healing, ...Read more
Regency meets road rage in 'Fast and Fastidious'
"Fast and Fastidious" is an absolutely smashing and highly entertaining genre-defying first novel by R.M. Caldwell, a pseudonym for New Zealand theater director and escape room puzzle designer.
The author has described it as a “mash-up of 'Pride and Prejudice' and 'Fast and the Furious.'” Set in 1810 Regency England amid the Napoleonic ...Read more
Family Considers Multigenerational Living
Q: My aged mother is not doing well. We're strongly considering bringing her into our home rather than placing her in a care facility. But we still have three children living with us. How might this impact our family dynamics?
Jim: It will likely be a big impact -- and you should be prepared for blessings as well as challenges. On the plus side...Read more
The New Normal: Abnormal
There's poison in the air outside my house, a bitter smoke of ashes and hot freeway, and it is keeping us all inside.
Yesterday morning, the kids' summer camp announced that the planned trip to the pool had been cancelled. They would do activities indoors all day.
"How high can it get?" one of the boys asked, and I admitted I didn't know.
We ...Read more
Let Mute Kids Speak
It is easy to think of people who can't communicate as people who can't think. That's how deaf people were long regarded. But once sign language was invented, it became clear that the deaf were no different, intellectually, from the rest of us.
The same thing is true of many people with autism who cannot speak.
Case in point: Judy Chinitz's ...Read more
Family guide to new movie releases
'THE ODYSSEY'
Rated R for violence and some language.
What it’s about: An adaptation of Homer’s epic poem that follows Odysseus’ 10-year journey back home after a decade in the Trojan War.
The kid attractor factor: Teens and older kids might be drawn to the spectacle and story of this epic fantasy adventure.
Good lessons/bad lessons: ...Read more
Ex-etiquette: Parenting from a distance
Q. My ex is a terrible co-parent. When we divorced, I remarried soon afterward, but I have stayed open to co-parenting with their mother. We had to move an hour away and so my time with the kids had to change. I now have most weekends, but my relationship with the kids has changed. They are very attached to their mother and she will not do ...Read more
Lori Borgman: This gardener has more seeds than sense
My philosophy concerning a garden is the same as my philosophy toward dessert — there’s always room for a little more.
It didn’t take long this spring before I realized I was sowing too many seeds in too little space. Then a light bulb flashed and I thought, “Why not go vertical?” I could just coax everything to latch onto big swaths ...Read more
Dance upon demons in Vaishnavi Patel’s new contemporary fantasy
Vaishnavi Patel, New York Times bestselling author of "Kaikeyi," returns with a heart-pounding new standalone contemporary fantasy novel, "We Dance Upon Demons."
Set in the present day following the events of the pandemic and the most recent political turmoil, "We Dance Upon Demons" introduces us to Nisha — a burnt out reproductive healthcare...Read more
Isabel Klee’s 'Dogs, Boys, and Other Things I’ve Cried About' highlights the messy magic of your 20s
Isabel Klee perfectly captures the feeling of being a woman in her 20s in her brand new memoir, "Dogs, Boys, and Other Things I’ve Cried About."
For 20-somethings this will be incredibly relatable, and for those of us who made it through that time, it will conjure feelings of nostalgia that leave you both with the longing for simpler times ...Read more
How To Guide Child Through His 'Villain' Phase
Q: Our three-year-old son is fascinated with evil characters. Whenever he plays make-believe he always takes on the role of the villain; the only action figures he wants are the "bad guys." We've made big changes to our media viewing habits -- but nothing has changed. How should we address this?
Jim: Generally speaking, I don't think there's ...Read more
If You Don't Love the World Cup, You Haven't Heard the Right Story
At this point, my family members are accustomed to my weird European sporting interests. Short of watching "Heated Rivalry," you can't get me into hockey, but I can give you a 15-year history of the F1 race team that was Force India. And when it comes to football, the only team I've watched compete at Soldier Field is Olympiakos, the Piraeus ...Read more
For kids, a 'boring' summer can be the most exciting and memorable of all
The Fourth of July has come and gone, and for many families, summer has reached its sweet spot. The pools are open. The bikes are out. Library reading logs are filling up. School feels far away.
At least, that’s the nostalgic version.
And yet, for many children in the city and suburbs, summer doesn’t look like that at all. Children of ...Read more
Summer Songs Never Die
There's something about a summer song that means every time you hear it -- 10, 20, even (ahem) many more years later -- it all comes flooding back. The sun. The sprinklers. The bikinis (yours or someone else's). Often there's a camp in the background, or a beach, or a car -- and with any luck, the top is down.
Basically, you can take the year ...Read more
Family guide to new movie releases
'MOANA'
Rated PG for action/peril, some scary images, rude humor and brief thematic elements.
What it’s about: The young princess Moana is chosen by the ocean to return the heart of Te Fiti in order to save her island and she teams up with the demigod Maui to do so (same plot as the first movie!).
The kid attractor factor: The familiarity ...Read more
Ex-etiquette: Getting along
Q. How do I get along with my ex without fighting? We can barely stand each other and I can tell our kids are being affected. She thinks they are “just fine.” I think they are struggling. I tell her what the kids say and how they have trouble sleeping and she says, “I don’t see it here. It must be something YOU’RE doing.” I’m at a ...Read more



























