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Daniel Grace brings Judas and Pilate back to New York
Someone has staged them with nails, blood and a cold sense of purpose. The police see a grotesque crime scene. A defense attorney sees a case that will swallow his career. A social worker sees a summons that feels older than the city itself.
Daniel Grace’s debut novel, "In the Wake of Golgotha," starts with that shock and then keeps its foot ...Read more
Anxiety memorist dives deeper into emotions
In his book "Hard Feelings: Finding the Wisdom in Our Darkest Emotions," Daniel Smith’s contemplative reflection is both rewarding and cathartic, as he explores the emotions he has contended with over his lifetime and the scholarly research that has examined similar feelings. Each chapter is full of rewarding insight into feelings such as ...Read more
Lending Money To Family Should Be Approached Cautiously
Q: In the past few months both our adult son and my brother have experienced job loss and hardship. We have the resources to help. Is it wise to loan money to either or both of them?
Jim: Financial counselor Ron Blue highlights a critical point to consider in situations like this. Whenever money is loaned, the relationship between the parties ...Read more
Future-Proofing the Next Generation
When engineers build something expensive and important, they try to "future-proof" it. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, future-proofing means "to design software, a computer, etc. so that it can still be used in the future, even when technology changes." In other words, something that's future-proof is able to adapt as the world changes.
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Family guide to new movie releases
'MICHAEL'
Rated PG-13 for some thematic material, language, and smoking.
What it’s about: A biopic about the King of Pop set during the early (noncontroversial) days of his career, from 1966 to 1988.
The kid attractor factor: Most likely the music.
Good lessons/bad lessons: Learn to go your own way and write your own songs.
Violence: Some...Read more
Lori Borgman: 11 reasons to not clean my desk drawer
My desk drawer is a mess. It’s always a mess. Even after I tidy it up, it reverts to a mess as soon as I close the drawer.
I think it’s because I do things quickly. I move fast and mess things up fast. But even if I slowed down, it would still be a mess, just a mess on slow bake.
My desk is considered communal property in that it sits in ...Read more
Ex-etiquette: Emotional artifacts
Q. My girlfriend and I are moving in together, and while cleaning out her garage, I found a box of photos of her with other guys — except most of the guys are cut out, so it’s basically her with a random torso on a boat, her with a random torso skiing... Do I say something? What’s good ex-etiquette?
A. Ah, the archaeological dig of a ...Read more
Dark slow-burn romance explores trauma, trust and the complicated ties that bind
Some romances race toward the first kiss. "Only the Small Bones" by C.P. Harris takes the longer road — the one lined with rules that exist for a reason. Do not touch. Do not push. Do not demand words that will not come. Harris opens her tale with urgency, then settles into something more intimate: the hours after crisis, the strange quiet ...Read more
Offering clear-eyed hope on infertility’s hardest days
There is a particular silence that follows a fertility appointment. It sits in the car between two people who don’t know what to say. It hums in the background of baby showers and holiday dinners. It lingers in the two-week wait, in the clinic portal notification, in the careful recalculating of hope.
"When Waiting Becomes Life: Encouraging ...Read more
How To Handle Critical Comments
Q: I'm a divorced dad with joint custody of my daughter. When she came to my place last weekend, she told me that my ex-wife has been making some very critical and unkind statements about me. Do you have any advice for handling this situation?
Jim: First, I'd say don't jump to conclusions just yet. Some children are capable of exaggerating or ...Read more
What Has Passed is Not Always What Was Best
Your memories will try to trick you.
I thought about that as I was driving down a street near my house the other day, when I spotted a father walking down the sidewalk, his young daughter slung over his shoulder like a sack of coal he was hauling out of a mine. Her hair bounced along on his back and she looked thrilled. They had been out on a...Read more
Graduates, Follow Your (Fill in the Blank)
Note to Grads: Fill in the parentheses and you can skip the big speech. It's all here!
Greetings, students, parents, deans, professors and especially our esteemed mascot (name of fish), who so aptly represents our student body -- and with whom I have a date later tonight. I just hope that's not a costume!
It is an honor to (verb) before you....Read more
Family guide to new movie releases
'NORMAL'
Rated R for strong bloody violence, and language.
What it’s about: An interim sheriff discovers a small Minnesota town's violent secret.
The kid attractor factor: This is an action comedy — not for kids.
Good lessons/bad lessons: Never use loaded weapons as decor.
Violence: Extreme bloody violence throughout, shooting, ...Read more
Lori Borgman: Dirty car drives her crazy
I love a clean car — no trash on the floor, no empty plastic water bottles rolling around, no fossilized fries smashed into floor mats. A clean car makes me happy.
Sometimes, if the car is clean on the inside and the outside, I’m so happy I throw it in park at red lights and car dance like crazy.
Not really. But I’m car dancing on the ...Read more
Ex-etiquette: Conflict with grieving grandmother
Q. I just got married to a man with three children. Their mother died two years ago, and we have bonded quite well. Problem is the kids' grandmother -- the children's mother's mother -- seems very jealous and undermines things that I do. She will make appointments for outings directly with the kids that I know nothing about. Or she will show up ...Read more
'So Old, So Young': A nostalgic masterpiece
In his newest novel, Grant Ginder gives the perfect read for 20-somethings, 30-somethings and beyond, and proves to us that friendships may come and go, but the memories never will.
"So Old, So Young" follows a group of six friends over 20 years, as the real world intervenes, adulthood beckons and they struggle to maintain their relationships ...Read more
A practical guide to staying alert in an unpredictable world
"Look Twice: Your Guide to Staying Safe in an Unsafe World, Volume I" lands in a steady, practical place. Tim Beard writes like someone who has spent years thinking about risk and then came home to translate that mindset for ordinary life. The result feels less like a lecture and more like a field manual you can carry into Monday morning.
This ...Read more
Parent Seeks Advice On Helping Shy Son
Q: My 15-year-old son is very shy and nervous around girls his age. I'm looking for ways to give him a boost in this area. Any suggestions for making him feel more confident in mixed company?
Jim: Realistically, millions of 15-year-old boys are nervous around girls! So, this is a very common situation.
I think most of us can remember how ...Read more
Jesus of Nazareth visits the Pentagon
PENTAGON FRONT DESK: Hello. Can I help you?
JESUS OF NAZARETH: Hello, my child. I am Jesus of Nazareth, here for my 10:30 appointment with Elbridge Colby, the undersecretary of defense.
FRONT DESK: OK, sure. Hold on a second. He's just finishing up with someone right now.
(Out walks Mother Teresa. The door slams behind her.)
COLBY, FROM ...Read more
Don't Let Summer Be a Bummer!
If you're a parent, it's time to think summer safety ... even though it's only spring. That's safety tip No. 1: Plan ahead!
Summer safety starts at home and sometimes doesn't leave it for days at a time because, face it, it's just not safe out there. Especially in the summer!
But you can outsmart that sizzling season with these helpful tips ...Read more



























