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Ex-etiquette: Do I have to go to my ex's wedding?
Q. My ex just told me in one breath that he is getting married and then, with the next breath, invited me to the wedding. As good as we all get along, I was a little shocked -- and I really don’t want to go. Our daughter will be the flower girl and I’m concerned she may be uncomfortable. How do I decline the invitation without offending him?...Read more
Lori Borgman: Introducing ink-redible grandmas
Grandma is close at heart. Literally. And permanently.
A picture was in this morning’s paper of a young man proudly showing a tattoo of his beloved late grandma on his chest, along with a quote from her.
Sweet. Very, very sweet.
Naturally, with 11 grands, I ask myself, “What are the chances?”
At this stage of the game, the best I could...Read more
6 thrillers where beautiful people make bad decisions
Money buys silence. Status buys patience … And reputation? Well, that buys second chances.
The following novels understand this all too well, and dismantle the privileged systems without mercy. Set among rehab centers built to protect the famous, towns that quietly adjusted to old crimes and communities governed by image and inheritance, ...Read more
Preparing To Talk To Pre-Teens About Sex
Q: In most situations I'm a pretty confident guy. But the thought of having the "birds and bees" talk with my pre-teen son has me sweating bullets. Help?!
Jim: I think most guys relate. My sons are grown men now, but I remember I was pretty nervous when the time came for me to talk with my oldest, Trent, about sex. Human reproduction can be ...Read more
Advice for Anxious Parents
Parents today are scared. A new survey from the Institute for Family Studies found that the average parent will not let their kids roam more than 100 yards from home until they are 8 or 9 years old.
Of course it's natural to want to protect kids from danger. The problem is that our culture has trained parents to see danger everywhere they look....Read more
Planned Parenthood of Illinois agrees to pay $500,000 over allegations of discrimination against white employees
CHICAGO — Planned Parenthood of Illinois has agreed to pay $500,000 following an investigation by the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission into allegations that its white employees faced harassment and discrimination, according to the federal agency.
The EEOC investigated charges made by multiple employees and found “reasonable ...Read more
Family guide to new movie releases
'PROJECT HAIL MARY'
Rated PG-13 for some thematic material and suggestive references.
What it’s about: An unassuming science teacher finds himself alone in space trying to save the world and befriending an alien.
The kid attractor factor: This sweet and heartwarming sci-fi epic appeals mostly to adults but might draw kids as well with its ...Read more
Ex-etiquette: It's not enough
Q. I see my daughter every other weekend, and it's not enough. I saw her more often before I took my current job, but I now work the swing shift and get home at 11 p.m., Monday through Friday. I'm thinking about changing jobs to an 8-5, moving to another county, and then applying for full custody. Her mother can have every other weekend and see ...Read more
Lori Borgman: Sometimes the reviews are fishy
In this Age of Review and Return, almost 93% of all shoppers read reviews before making a purchase. Even though we review before we buy, we often return the purchase after it arrives.
There was a time when returns were a rarity. Oh, there were exceptions, but you had to face a stern clerk, who often consulted a stern manager. Now, you just ...Read more
When forgiveness fails, vengeance thrives in Caroline Glenn’s 'Cruelty Free'
That uniquely magical moment when a novel knocks you flat and makes you ask, “Did that really just happen?” The joy of reading a passage multiple times to revisit the delightful insanity that liberates the reader from their reality.
In "Cruelty Free," author Caroline Glenn delivers a number of these moments in a playfully sinister new ...Read more
'The Seven Daughters of Dupree' weaves a haunting tapestry of Black womanhood
Nikesha Elise Williams starts the prologue of "The Seven Daughters of Dupree" with a sentence so horrible readers will hope it’s a metaphor for something less unthinkable. And then, as though taking the hand of a reluctant child, Williams pulls her readers into the first chapter – and into a hair salon where we meet the first of seven women ...Read more
When To Remarry After Divorce
Q: Recently I've gone through a divorce that I didn't want. My ex has already moved on and there's no going back, so I'm starting to look forward myself. How soon is too soon to get married again after divorce?
Jim: There's no one-size-fits-all answer to "how soon is too soon." But since this is a question that our counselors at Focus on the ...Read more
The 'Easy Way Out' May Not Be So Easy After all
I've been hearing a lot lately about how it's "taking the easy way out" to use GLP-1s to lose weight.
That may be true. But then again, you might be able to say the same thing about virtually every medical advancement. When you boil it down, chemotherapy is "taking the easy way out" of testicular cancer. Penicillin is "taking the easy way out...Read more
Republicans cut off Medicaid funding for Planned Parenthood. Philadelphia-area clinics are scrambling to maintain services
PHILADELPHIA — Planned Parenthood clinics in the Philadelphia area expect to lose $3.1 million in Medicaid revenue this year due to funding cuts under President Donald Trump’s signature spending plan.
The deficit puts thousands of low-income people who rely on Planned Parenthood Southeastern Pennsylvania’s clinics at risk of losing access...Read more
Pack It In, Parents
Got a mule handy? Great! Because I've been flipping through old parenting magazines I should throw out already, looking for valuable advice.
Instead, here's what I found: a list of items one article suggests you take along if you're traveling to, say, your brother-in-law's house for a long weekend with your baby:
--A portable crib
--A baby ...Read more
Family guide to new movie releases
'REMINDERS OF HIM'
Rated PG-13 for sexual content, strong language, drug content, some violent content, and brief partial nudity.
What it’s about: A young woman, fresh out of prison, tries to start a new life with the hopes of meeting her young daughter.
The kid attractor factor: This is an adult romantic melodrama, not much appeal for kids...Read more
Laura Yuen: Moving my dad into memory care broke me
For many months, I puzzled over why I couldn’t cry over my dad’s dementia. I even googled “why can’t I cry” to diagnose my condition, my inability to grieve the disappearance of his logic and memory.
My mom says when a loved one dies of a heart attack or in a car crash, the trauma is compacted. But our family’s grief was spread over...Read more
Ex-etiquette: 'You don't care'
Q. My ex often says, "You never cared about me, and now you don't care about our daughter." We're divorced, but this comes up repeatedly. When she says it, I find myself defending how much I care — about her, about our child — and the truth is, I don't care about my ex anymore. That sounds harsh, but I have very clear boundaries. I do care ...Read more
Lori Borgman: The reason it's called HARDware
I can catch a plane, a ball, a cold and the flu, but the one thing I can’t catch is home improvement skills.
I recently painted a small bathroom cabinet. The project took three days, not including 11 trips to the big box hardware store.
Meanwhile, on six different cable channels, people with home improvement skills ripped out small half-...Read more
M.L. Stedman’s 'A Far-Flung Life' is a sweeping saga of grief and enduran
What happens when your life falls apart? Not just once, but over and over again? When you’re constantly reminded of your mistakes? When there is no true way to atone for these mistakes?
In her first novel in over a decade, M.L. Stedman seeks to answer these questions in the epic family saga, "A Far-Flung Life."
The book centers on the ...Read more



























