What can I learn from my girlfriend's betrayal?

on Apr 13, 2026

From the writings of the Rev. Billy Graham

Q: My girlfriend moved to another city because she was offered a modeling job and talked me into following her there, since we planned to be married. Carelessly, I moved before getting a job lined up, and when I arrived, she told me she had met someone else and walked away from our wedding plans. I am here and don’t know a soul and can’t get a job. I feel dejected and can’t afford to move again. I’m not even sure what I can learn from this. – D.F.

A: There was a story about a young lady from a small town who found herself in despair when she followed her fiancé to the big city. They both immersed themselves in a high-powered advertising agency, and their courtship had been amidst a background of cocktail parties and the nightlife. Instead of being committed to the girl he said he loved, he was drawn away by an up-and-coming actress; he walked away. She was despondent. Her pride was crushed, and her future looked bleak and empty. She didn’t know where to turn for advice, comfort, or guidance.

As she wandered from place to place trying to avoid her shock and humiliation, she came upon a Gospel revival and found peace and comfort through salvation in Jesus Christ. She realized that the love lost was actually a stepping stone to a far greater love. Instead of wasting her brains and ability on an endless round of cocktail parties, she became active, walking with the Lord and serving others. She found a career that fulfilled her. Sometime later, she met and married a wonderful man who served the Lord. More than anything, she found peace with God and learned the importance of thanking God, even when times seem unbearable. We must guard against allowing life’s circumstances to trick our minds and hearts.

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(This column is based on the words and writings of the late Rev. Billy Graham.)