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Adult Sons Have Forgotten Childhood Lesson

Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin on

DEAR MISS MANNERS: We always write thank-you notes for gifts, lovely evenings at someone's home, and so forth. When someone comes to our home and brings flowers or a bottle of wine, we don't write a note since that gift is, in a way, a thank-you to us for hosting.

But as that gift gets larger, does it cross the line into thank-you note territory?

We hosted my sister and brother-in-law for a weekend, and they sent an enormous basket of goodies afterwards. It was impressively large, and will last us quite some time. Even though it was itself a thank-you for the weekend, do we send them a thank-you note for the basket?

GENTLE READER: Yes. That qualifies as a present, no matter what the motivation for its being sent. To avoid this becoming an endless exchange, Miss Manners advises you to thank them with words alone -- unaccompanied by a gift of your own.

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