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1. Am I making an assumption or dealing with facts?

2. Will my decision protect me from harm?

3. Will it let me avoid an unwanted conflict?

4. Will it let me reach a goal?

5. Will I feel the way I want?


Also, I have learned that people are afraid of making a mistake. There are two basic kinds of errors -- errors of omission or commission. -- Helpful Questions I Ask Myself and Patients

Dear Helpful: Thank you for these very helpful decision-making questions. I love hearing from professionals and having you share your wisdom of 55 years of practice.


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