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Husband Looking at Porn and More

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 22 years, and to my knowledge, he has always been committed to me and our family. However, recently he upgraded to a new phone, and I have found he is continually exploring porn and pictures of nude women. I know that all guys look at this from time to time, but now he carries around this mini...Read more

Enabling a Self-Destructive Son

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My stepson, "Dale," lives off benefits from the government and his father -- my sweet, loving husband, who is in his 70s. Dale has not worked for five years, and his dad bails him out of every scrape and crisis he gets himself into. Dale has been fired from every job he has ever had. He has spent time in rehab. He lies, steals, is ...Read more

Tardy to the Party

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I have a friend who is always late. Lunch, dinner, concerts, movies -- I don't think I've ever gone to an outing with her when she hasn't shown up 10 or 15 minutes late. She's a lovely, caring person otherwise and a thoughtful friend, but I can't help but be put off by this seeming lack of consideration for other people's time, ...Read more

Taking the Wheels

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am at a loss as to how to get my car back from my mom's house. A little history first: My brother and his family have lived at my parents' home on and off since they got married because of financial hardship. I have also lived there at times during my adult life, but I have some physical and mental health issues that preclude my ...Read more

Questionable Relationships

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: A friend whom I have known for 40-plus years got married for the second time in his life five years ago. At the wedding, some of the bride's relatives told the minister, "These two should not be married."

Two years ago, he filed for divorce. In the settlement, he wanted nothing from her. (The house was totally in her name, as was ...Read more

Phantom Lovers

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: It's been over a year now since my wife left for the fourth time. This time, I really don't have confirmation of her exact reason, but I can hazard a good guess, because the other three times she left for the same reason. She thinks I'm a cheater. In her mind, there is always someone else -- but that's the only place there is ...Read more

Hatred and Disgust for Stepson

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am a 42-year-old man with two teenage sons. I have been married to my second wife for almost a year. She has an 11-year-old son, "Brice."

Brice never had a man in his life until I married his mom. He is respectful and a sweet kid, but for some reason, I hate him. I know that sounds harsh, and I am actually ashamed at how I feel,...Read more

Help Yourself

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I'm at my wits' end dealing with my friend's glum, woe-is-me attitude. I've known "Max" since we worked together at a restaurant when I was in college. He was in his early 20s and had grown up in the town. He said he regretted not getting a bachelor's degree. As we became better friends and he saw the projects I was doing for my ...Read more

We Were Going to Eat That

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: At the recent Thanksgiving celebration, I was again faced with a situation that has bothered me for some time now.

We take turns in my family hosting a holiday. This year, it was my turn to host Thanksgiving. I truly love cooking for this feast. Everyone brings a dish, and I usually do the turkey and dressing. Our group consisted ...Read more

Co-ed Sleepovers

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Our daughter, husband and family moved in to a small house next door to us as they both work, and their living close to us enables us to keep an eye out for their three daughters, ages 11, 11 and 15. Until they get two bedrooms built on the cottage, the 15-year-old and one of the 11-year-olds will use our spare bedroom to sleep in....Read more

Friend or Tenant?

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My friend bought a condo in Florida. She wants me to come stay for a week while she is there but thinks she needs to charge me $350 to stay with her. Why would a friend need to charge you if she is there, too? If I chip in for some food, what am I paying $350 for? Is this fair? -- Feeling Used

Dear Feeling Used: It does not seem ...Read more

In-Laws Ruin the Holidays

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I've been married for almost 20 years, and for all of those years, my in-laws have ruined my holiday season. From the very beginning, I've tried really hard to be gracious, kind and generous. These are all of the attributes that my mother (now deceased) always told me that family is about. I come from a big close-knit family. We ...Read more

Tip Mortification

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: The other day, I was out for lunch with a woman I recently became friends with. At the end of the meal, we asked the server to split the check 50-50. He brought us our receipts. I was waiting for my friend to finish using the pen, and I wasn't trying to peek, but I noticed she'd left the tip line blank. She noticed my noticing and,...Read more

Endgame With an Abuser

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: For 37 years, I've been married to a sociopath.

When "Robert" and I met, he was sweet, charming and thoughtful. His father was an alcoholic, mean physically and emotionally. Robert said he never wanted to be like that. When our first child was born, he was a good father. But when I was pregnant with our second child, things ...Read more

Lunches With a Controlled Wife

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am concerned about one of my friends, "Amanda." She and I are both middle-aged housewives with only part-time jobs. For the past six months or so, we've been having lunch together once a week.

Amanda comes from a much more repressed background than I do. She was raised to believe that wives should be submissive to their husbands...Read more

Ask Away

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I work in retail, and my job requires a good deal of direct contact with customers. I often encounter customers who are hesitant, even apologetic, to ask me questions when they have them, the usual reasons being that I "look busy" or that they are unsure whether I can help.

I realize that these people are attempting to be polite, ...Read more

Ex-Husband Still Has Control

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I divorced an extremely wealthy, abusive and narcissistic man five years ago. My divorce was a horror. He hacked my phone, email and Facebook account and put a tracking device on my car. He put listening devices, maybe even cameras, in my home and had private investigators follow me. (I have witnesses to all this.) He told me he ...Read more

Scam Victim Wonders What to Do

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I was recently a victim of fraud. It involved a job offer that turned out to be fake and a check that turned out to be bad. My question to you is: Should I report this to the police or someone else? -- Feeling Foolish

Dear Feeling Foolish: Don't feel too foolish. According to a study from Javelin Strategy & Research, 15.4 million ...Read more

Deciding Where Possessions Will Go

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: Please settle a disagreement between my elder sister and me. We will abide by your decision. I recently turned 85 and don't expect to see Christmas, as I am in very poor health. I have been passing heirlooms on to family members, primarily to my granddaughters and their kids, as I lost my eldest son in the early '80s to AIDS and my...Read more


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