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Friend's Romance Sits On A Foundation Of Bad Choices
DEAR ABBY: I think the world of "Celia," my best friend of 25 years. She has been there for me through many major ups and downs in my life. She is beautiful inside and out, well-educated and works hard.
Celia has been in a five-year relationship with an old friend I'll call "Vince." I think he is a nice guy, but not for her. He has no desire to...Read more
Spouse Would Prefer In-Laws To Stay In A Hotel
DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I (both women) have been together for 25 years. For half of them, we lived in the Middle East. We met while working as health care expatriates. My spouse is from South Africa and was raised very differently than I was.
When we finally returned to the U.S., we bought a house in a southern state where two of my brothers ...Read more
Widow Has No Interest In An Intimate Relationship
DEAR ABBY: Six months ago, I began seeing a man I like very much but don't want to be intimate with. We are in our "young" 70s, and both of us were widowed two years ago after 50-year marriages. We agreed early on that neither of us will remarry.
We are affectionate, and he'll occasionally kiss my cheek, nape of my neck or forehead. We hug. ...Read more
Best Friend Is Anything But One After Wine O'clock
DEAR ABBY: My best friend of 60 years lost her husband 13 years ago. She has one son, who is successful and busy with his young family. They try to include her in various family gatherings, but she always has an excuse as to why she can't attend -- she doesn't drive at night, doesn't like their friends, etc.
The truth is, she starts drinking at...Read more
Boyfriend Ignores Partner's Wishes For Their New Home
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I recently bought our first house together. It has an outdoor kitchen and other features he really likes. I like it too, but there have been some issues already in the first month or two. Lately, he's been wanting to have BBQs and get-togethers for his family. He invites all these people over who I don't know. I'm not...Read more
Blowup With Fiance Reveals True Status Of Relationship
DEAR ABBY: I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We broke up for a while, but got back together and have been doing great, and we got engaged six months ago. Last week, we had a huge fight, where all my bottled-up resentment came out. I have tried to communicate my needs, but while he changes briefly, things always revert back to ...Read more
Son's Wife Prefers The Company Of Her Phone During Visits
DEAR ABBY: When my son got married in 2003, we had many good times with him and his wife. Things have changed now that we have cellphones. It's nearly impossible to have a relationship with her because when they come to our home, she's always on her phone! My son talks to his dad, and I'm left sitting there wondering what I should do.
Would you...Read more
Ebbs And Flows Of Friendships Breed Bitterness
DEAR ABBY: For the third time in my life, I am being shunned by long-term friends. Over the years, I have expended a great deal of time and effort to stay in touch with them. Back when we lived in the same places, we were very close. Ultimately, I moved away but always stayed in touch.
These friendships have spanned decades and, since we rarely...Read more
Exes Check In To A New Phase Of Uncertainty
DEAR ABBY: I was with my ex-fiance for 13 years. Not long after he broke up with me, I found myself going to meet him at a hotel. We have been seeing each other regularly, once a week at least. We go out and enjoy our time together like we are dating.
The frustrating thing is, he doesn't want to let me know where he lives. He says it's a ...Read more