Ask Amy: Husband thinks his wife is too close to her kids
I’m not doing anything wrong. It’s not like I am going out to bars.
I am always back home no later than 9 p.m. and I always keep in touch with my husband while I’m out.
I finally told him that this is his problem, and he needs to get over it because I am not doing anything wrong.
Well, it just happened again.
Am I missing something?
– At a Loss
Dear At a Loss: It’s one thing for your husband to try to limit your time with your children when he is around, but his desire to also control who you see when he is away is completely ridiculous, over the top, and – concerning.
Your husband’s perspective might be that he would like for the two of you to spend more of your “together-time” socializing with people who are closer to your own age and stage in life. If so, then he should work harder to develop these friendships.
And unless your daily phone and texting contact with your children is obsessive, damaging, or taking your attention away from your own work, hobbies, friendships, or unduly interfering with your marriage, then it is simply not his business.
Close and intimate marriages thrive when spouses place the marriage at the center of their lives, but it’s a simple fact that your relationship with your children is longer standing, lifelong and unique.
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