Ask Amy: Parents on the fence over adultery
Dear Parents: Couples do recover from episodes of cheating.
When it comes to your daughter’s marriage, it’s a mistake for you to attach to a specific outcome.
If she asks for your advice about what you believe she should do, you should be honest with her. Otherwise, keep your opinion to yourself.
If you share your view, you should also say that you understand this is complicated, that it is her marriage – not yours – and that you will absolutely be in her corner, no matter what.
If she stays with her husband, you should also be honest with him. Tell him (privately) you’re disappointed in his choice but that you hope they can recover.
If you put him down or react with anger, you may paint your daughter into a difficult corner. She could feel the need to defend him and thus distance herself from you.
Dear Amy: I am originally from Europe and have lived in Los Angeles for more than 55 years – so naturally, I consider LA my home.
Often in a group setting when I’m introduced to new people, I’ll say that I'm from LA.
A woman recently responded to this by saying, "You don't have an LA accent."
Just as it is rude to comment on someone's weight, shape, or appearance, I would think it's inappropriate to comment on someone's accent and how they speak/sound.
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