Ask Amy: Friend is uncomfortable with overshares
– Confused
Dear Confused: Some people use social media to basically tip out their emotional dumpster and publish their every thought, feeling, and latest meal.
This can seem extremely indiscreet – or even performative – because of the way this rakes in a lot of sympathy or commiseration from followers.
You don’t like this, but some people do. Having access to another person’s struggles can inspire other social media users to feel less alone.
“Sandy” has found her outlet. She may find that her public openness enables her to be more present for her close personal friends. She is venting to a crowd; consequently she is freeing up real estate in your group chats.
You might be baffled by her choices, but harshly judging her won’t help either of you. She’s sharing her frustrations and challenges publicly on social media, while you’re sharing yours with the people who read this column.
Yes, reach out to Sandy privately to check in, but do not accuse her of oversharing.
She is broadcasting using her preferred channels; you should respond using yours.
Dear Amy: The other night I was talking to my husband about a little lie he told.
I said that lying is one thing I won't tolerate!
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