Ask Amy: Parent wonders whether to bail out daughter
She maintained occasional supervised visitation for a couple of years, but again violated a court order and dropped out of sight.
All of this happened before Bob and I met. All of this drama traumatized the children to some extent. They seem afraid of their mother and in therapy have said that they don’t want contact with her.
My stepdaughters are now teenagers and are absolutely wonderful.
My husband’s ex recently reached out to me via private message. She explained that she had been in treatment and that she is desperate to see her children, now that she has recovered.
My heart broke and I would like to help her.
What do you think?
– Sensitive Stepmother
Dear Sensitive: My response is a hard “no.”
Turn this contact over to your husband. You were not present when all of this was happening in the family.
His ex is going through you because she believes you will be more easily manipulated (and she’s right).
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