Ask Amy: Married couple ponders parenthood
I’ve talked to Jennifer about this and she seems unwilling to enforce this rule with her sister.
At this point, I feel exhausted and stressed by this situation.
What do you think I should do?
– Roomie
Dear Roomie: You and “Jennifer” talked this over when you moved in together (a very smart move on your parts), and she agreed to this limit on sleepovers.
You should check the language on your lease (many leases prohibit others from essentially moving in), and discuss this calmly and frankly with both women.
Jennifer’s sister understands the pressure of living with an “extra” person because her roommate’s boyfriend has driven her out of her own home.
The two sisters might want to look for their own place, but starting now they should agree and adhere to the house rules that you two established when you moved in together.
Dear Amy: "Annoyed" reported that both parents had died, and she didn’t like it when her siblings said that they were “going to visit mom and dad” when they went to the cemetery. She felt that because their folks were dead, they should not be spoken of in the present tense.
In my opinion, Annoyed is wrong.
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