Ask Amy: Blended family is not really blended
Before you go, you could tell your husband, quite plainly, that you’re taking a break, and that you’d appreciate it if the house was in good shape when you returned. While away I hope you will make a choice to make some big changes in your own life.
Dear Amy: Gift giving is my “love language,” and I really go above and beyond to give gifts to friends and family members for their special days.
I’m thoughtful in that way and I genuinely enjoy doing this for others.
However … I recently celebrated my birthday. I got phone calls and texts from the people I’m closest to, and one person sent me a card, but I didn’t receive any gifts at all.
I’m really upset and have decided to stop giving to all of these people.
Maybe I shouldn’t make this decision when I’m so upset, and so I’m checking my decision with you.
Do you think I’m doing the right thing?
– Cheerful Giver
Dear Cheerful: If giving and receiving gifts is your “love language,” then you might feel better about this situation by reconsidering your definition of “gifts.”
Your friends and family members remembered your birthday and got in touch with you.
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