Ask Amy: Young parents tangle over custody
Dear Amy: My youngest son "Thomas" dated "Allyssa" sporadically during high school.
It was a volatile relationship (he's non-confrontational, she loves drama).
Allyssa became pregnant at the end of his senior year (her junior year).
He took a paternity test to confirm that he was the father. They managed to work out visitation (nothing legal).
Thomas has "Trent" three days a week (overnight). Trent is now 10 months old. Thomas loves him so much.
The problem is that every time Thomas starts dating someone, Allyssa starts using the baby as a pawn.
She doesn't want her son to be around another girl, and makes up terrible lies about the girl as reasons to keep the baby away.
When Thomas tries to keep a good friendship between him and Allyssa for the baby's sake, Allyssa thinks he wants to resume their romance.
When she doesn't get what she wants, it's total drama. I know a lot of this is immaturity, but she also has an unhealthy obsession with my son.
She has been in therapy, but says it is only to please her mother.