Ask Amy: Family challenges make it hard to shower
Dear Amy: I am writing to ask for your advice on my upcoming bridal shower.
I have a difficult relationship with my parents and sibling and I have worked to set boundaries in the past few years that have made me happier in general.
I no longer choose to feel personally responsible for their happiness or success, because they make their own choices and resist help.
My concern lies with my aunts and uncles.
During family events, they each pull me aside individually and expect details and personal conversations regarding my parents and sibling.
They make me feel personally responsible for these problems and the result is that I feel terrible for months.
What is a polite way to handle their questions on what is supposed to be a happy day for me?
I'm tired of my entire family life revolving around my immediate family's drama.
– Dreading the Inevitable in Ohio
Dear Dreading: Landmark events (such as weddings and their attendant celebrations) can be nerve-wracking, especially in families like yours.