Ask Amy: Woman is hurt, lonely, and far from home
As hard as it is for you, I would suggest looking him in the eye and pressing for an explanation regarding his actions, and being completely honest about what you are going through.
Sitting down with a couple’s counselor would help.
It is possible to find therapy in other countries (I’ve done it), or you could connect with a therapist in your home country via telehealth.
I hope you will continue to try to build a life for yourself. Doing this when you’re lonely and homesick is extremely hard work. Other expatriates can be an invaluable resource – if there are organizations or places where expatriates gather, do what you can to connect.
In the shorter term, if you are able to return home, at least for a visit, it might be one way for you to clear your head and clarify your options.
Because you seem to be dreading this particular event, you might want to exit while his sisters are visiting.
Dear Amy: I am a woman married to another woman. We have recently added a beautiful baby to our family, and we are ecstatic.
We know other couples like ourselves but haven’t yet discussed how we should handle our somewhat unique family out in the world, or how to explain this to our child, when he is older.
We’d appreciate your take.
– Happy Family
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