Ask Amy: Dating is tough; social media makes it tougher
This is the best way to save you from yourself – it also saves you having to go through the whole “unfriending” process later on, if things don’t work out.
Dear Amy: My wife and I were friends with another couple for more than 40 years. The wife died and we have remained close with the husband.
After his wife’s death, the husband started dating and met a woman that he wanted us to meet.
The four of us met for dinner and then had dessert at our home.
During the evening we continued to ask questions to the guest about children, travel, life experiences, interests, etc., however, the woman never asked us anything during the several hours together, and this is a red flag for us.
Our friend wants us to share his new friend with us, however, we are hesitant to engage again.
How do we handle this? Try another evening?
– Concerned Friend
Dear Concerned: I completely agree that someone who doesn’t show any interest in others is a big red flag. But consider this: After your evening together, your friend’s date might have said to him, “Wow, what’s with all the questions? Why the third degree?”
My point is that although you and your wife sound very gracious, meeting very dear friends is a nerve-wracking experience for someone just coming onto the scene. This woman might have felt overwhelmed, and was doing her best to keep up by answering questions in a way that would endear and impress you.
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