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It can be mentally challenging and emotionally heartbreaking to be with someone whose memory is failing. Your friend might have good days and tougher days – or mornings might be better for her than evenings. Don’t stress her by trying too hard to prompt memories from her, but go with her flow – wherever that takes both of you.

Down the road, you can still let your friend know that you love her, even if she doesn’t recognize your voice. If speaking by phone becomes impossible, send cards and postcards, and express your affection and gratitude.

There is no return from this heartbreak, but this is your opportunity to honor your friendship by holding her hand through this part of her journey.

Dear Amy: I’m almost 30. My grandparents are in their 80s and healthy.

They have told me that they will be leaving me money in their will and – although I’m not sure the amount, they seem to be quite prosperous.

I am considering asking them for my inheritance ahead of their passing. My experience during the pandemic has given me a very strong desire to travel for several months.

I think my grandparents might feel gratified witnessing me enjoying their legacy, but I don’t know how to ask them.

Your advice?

– Grateful Grandchild

Dear Grandchild: There are many factors here which you don’t include. These would be: Your grandparents’ health, future housing and medical needs, and their willingness to be manipulated by an adventure-seeking grandchild.

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