Ask Amy: Siblings Zoom away from family meetings
Any advice for how to manage my feelings and/or make these Zoom meetings more attractive to my family?
– Seeking Family Connection
Dear Seeking: I well remember those first Zoom cocktail parties in the early days of the pandemic; virtual connection opened up so many possibilities – and then our human tendency toward tedium set in.
I applaud your efforts to set up these meetings, and to keep them going. I assume other families are experiencing the dynamic you describe.
I suggest contacting both of your brothers to express your concerns regarding these virtual meetings.
One idea would be for each of you three to rotate through “hosting” the meeting each month – this would give your brothers more ownership in the process, making them more likely to show up and to encourage their children to join (you would still send out the all-important link).
I hope readers will offer their own suggestions.
Dear Amy: You frequently encourage people to pursue their DNA heritage.
My two siblings found out that their biological father is entirely unknown.
Knowing this has definitively destroyed the relationship between the siblings.
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