Ask Amy: Neighbors’ plant is a Little Shop of Horrors
I am also a member of a large and loud family – and I often seek their advice.
Dear Amy: “Old Worrier” isn’t his daughter’s biological father, and in his elder years he is really struggling with how to disclose this to her.
His daughter may already know more than he thinks.
My mom told me when I was in my mid-50s that she had something she needed to tell me, and I said, "Mom, I already know.”
I’d known my Dad wasn't my biological father for more than 15 years.
I realized years before that things just didn't add up.
I kept my silence for their sakes. It didn't matter to me why or who. I knew I was loved and raised by the man who was meant to raise me.
Whatever mistakes (or secrets) were made in their past were theirs.
It never changed anything, but it gave my Mom peace to tell me when she was ready.
– Raised by Dad
Dear Raised: My heart went out to this elder father who loved his daughter so much, but was haunted by the knowledge that he wasn’t her biological father. I hope their family has as beautiful a resolution as yours has had.
Your folks raised you well.
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