Ask Amy: Online match becomes a Cyrano situation
I don’t want to hurt him, especially since the reason behind it is so petty and would be so harmful if he knew.
Am I a terrible woman?
– Prospecting
Dear Prospecting: This dynamic is the very reason I push for in-person (or video meeting) as soon as possible, when people are crushing online.
Start by watching whatever version of “Cyrano” you can gain access to.
You aren’t being petty; you aren’t being terrible, you’re being human. (Have you never experienced a soft-rejection because of a lack of attraction? This is a common and awkward experience for anyone brave enough to swim in the dating pool.)
You’re already friends with this man. Now that you’ve de-crushed, you should guide this relationship back into the friend zone.
Dear Amy: I’m nearing the end of high school. My folks are asking about my graduation plans.
I’ve always made it clear that I would not walk at the graduation ceremony. My family seems to assume I’ve had a change of heart, but the thought of attending still makes me deeply uncomfortable.
For some context, I haven’t attended other nonessential school events, (prom, sports events, etc).
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