Ask Amy: A reader reflects on the ongoing Covid risk
I can afford to do this, but I’m wondering if I should.
Your thoughts?
– Devoted Aunt
Dear Aunt: If you choose to do this, you might set it up as a long-term loan, to be repaid if (or when) she sells the house. Get the terms in writing.
Once you’ve loaned someone money, it changes the dynamic. She will stop coming to you for bailouts, but if she does come to you, you can tell yourself (and her) that the well is dry until the loan is repaid.
Dear Amy: “Not a Therapist” described an awkward relationship with a woman who only contacted her when she was in some kind of emergency. She didn’t feel close enough to suggest that this person see a therapist, and you seemed to agree.
I beg to differ. A relatively uninvolved person is in a great position to recommend professional help!
– Begging to Differ
Dear Begging: You’re right! I frequently do it, myself (through my column).
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