Ask Amy: Elder exes want to reignite their flame
We’re both more stable and financially secure than we would be if we’d stayed together.
But it’s no fun.
We obviously can’t get a do-over, but it’s also no fun this way.
Neither of our mates would appreciate our getting together for some fun times.
Have you ever heard of such a thing – and what advice, if any, can you give?
– Want to Escape
Dear Escape: To recap the plot of this wonderful ear-worm, two former lovers who have moved on to other relationships realize afterward that they both love pina coladas and walking in the rain.
In short, this song is about reconnecting with a previous love.
The cynic in me says that this is something you should have realized before you had an affair and blew up your marriage. I also believe that fun and joy are qualities you can try to bring to your current long-term relationships.
The romantic in me says that you and your ex obviously believe that you are on a path leading to fun and passion. Given that you are both entering your elder years, you might see this as a last chance at revisiting your youth and repairing some of the mistakes you made.
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