Ask Amy: Beach sand has slipped through hourglass
– Anonymous
Dear Anonymous: I agree with you that sweatpants and T-shirts are not “appropriate” for a memorial service.
My opinion is that this elderly individual might not have been able to manage getting dressed more appropriately for this event. Some people cannot manage buttons and zippers.
Some people don’t have any dress clothes.
The kindest reaction is to look past what this man was wearing, and appreciate the fact that he showed up.
Dear Amy: “Expecting in AZ” didn’t know how to react to her in-laws’ demands to be present for the birth of her first child.
I 100 percent agree with your answer.
As a retired OB labor and delivery nurse who also taught birthing classes, I cannot stress enough how important it is for the new family to bond with each other.
The prospective mother has the right to determine who she wants with her for the delivery.
As I stressed in my classes, 20 people were not there when the baby was made and so they do not need to be there when the birth occurs.
Give the new parents time and space until they are ready to introduce their new little one.
– Been There
Dear Been There: It can be extremely challenging for expectant parents to advocate for themselves.
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