Ask Amy: Final break-up does not require details
Our last meal together resulted in them eating (and mostly drinking) $80 more than us, with the two couples splitting the bill evenly.
My wife indicated that she'd like to put together another dinner and I said I would ask for separate checks. She feels that this is “cheap.”
I feel we're being taken advantage of and this will continue as long as we let it continue.
Your thoughts?
– RMB
Dear RMB: I’m with you. Getting separate checks is not “cheap.”
All you have to do is to establish this one time, and then it will be just – what you do.
You can say (to these folks and then directly to the server), “We’re going to go with separate checks tonight.”
I would consider this a good way to move forward in a relationship with people you don’t know very well.
Dear Amy: “Upset Husband” was a self-made guy who did not want to accept a generous cash gift from his in-laws.
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