Ask Amy: Favorite grandson is the main course at dinner
I cringe when she calls or texts because I know I'll be asked to come over for dinner. Then I have to come up with some excuse – or cave.
I could visit three or four times a week and it still wouldn't be enough! I don't want her to stop inviting me over, I just don't want to make it a part of every conversation.
Without sounding selfish or uncaring, how do I tell her that this kind of behavior is annoying and makes me not want to answer the phone?
– Favorite Grandson
Dear Favorite: I do not give you permission to give your 91-year-old grandmother the brush-off.
One solution is to have a “standing date” once a week with her. Every Sunday afternoon, you will drive over to see her. If you can also see her at other times, that will be a bonus for both of you.
If she agitates about the next date, remind her: “Sunday is just four days away. I’m looking forward to it!”
Your grandmother was widowed last year. She has been through a lot. Her memory may be failing.
Come on, man! You can handle a little annoyance. Show up.
Dear Amy: I appreciate the support you show in your column toward extraordinary fathers.
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