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Ask Amy: Homeowner’s racial call-out offends family

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Without context, I would say that a brief “good night” text or call to someone you love is within the norm.

And while I appreciate the concept of a “bucket of trust,” your boyfriend is implying that yours is empty. Either you don’t trust him as much as you would like to, or you simply desire more frequent affectionate contact.

Your boyfriend is telling you – very clearly – that he’s not willing to do that.

Dear Amy: “Wish I didn’t Know” was privy to information concerning their husband’s DNA parentage, because of a shared account on a DNA website.

Thank you for counseling this spouse to let the husband come to this information on his own timetable.

I dealt with a remarkably similar issue in my own family. I’m glad I didn’t interfere.


– Been There

Dear Been There: People who receive test kits as gifts this year should prepare themselves for a surprise.


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