Ask Amy: Family should explore legacy of trauma
After he died, several of his friends and siblings decided to tell me that he was the father of a 9-year-old son and that the son will be well taken care of until he come of age.
I am glad the boy will be taken care of.
My question is why did these people never shared this information with me prior to his death? l knew absolutely nothing about this relationship.
Obviously, it was very well hidden from me.
I am annoyed at the people who are telling me now, especially his one sibling who claims to love me so much.
I don’t know what her motive is, other than to make me angry or hurt me.
What is your take? What do you think I should do?
— In the Dark
Dear In the Dark: I agree with you that keeping this a secret is a betrayal of your friendship. The way to find out what motivates people is to ask them. You will then decide how to respond.
Dear Amy: “TIA” was increasingly worried because her husband had refused to get the COVID vaccine. And then he was hospitalized with the disease.
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