Ask Amy: Surprise pregnancy leaves gran in a family’s way
My ex evidently is doing all the right things, though, so she makes sure he is tagged in pictures on Facebook, while she unfriended me twice.
Now I can't see any photos, even if she tags my son in a post.
I think she needs to see a doctor or maybe get medicated.
At this point all I can do is pray that she will change her mind.
Any suggestions?
– Worried Mom
Dear Mom: First this: If your son isn’t ready to have children and settle down – it’s called birth control. I suggest you teach him about it. “The pregnancy,” which “happened,” is what made him a father.
“Call first before you come over” is not an unreasonable rule – in fact, in my opinion, anyway, just dropping in on a family that has a baby in the household whenever you feel like it is inconsiderate.
So, if her rule makes her seem standoffish, then yours makes you seem intrusive.
Regardless, this “my house, my rules” notion may sound like she is drawing a battle line, but it is a true fact that parents control access to their children. And now because you don’t seem inclined to respect these rules or limits, you are being kept at arms’ length.
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