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Am I wrong?

– Mom of the Bride

Dear Mom: Typically, the maid of honor and other attendants will host a bridal shower, with the mothers of the bride and groom as guests, but this convention is not necessarily set in stone.

You are attempting to do what the marrying couple asked you to do.

This episode seems to have triggered an extreme reaction. Whether your future in-law typically overreacts, or perhaps is especially stressed right now, she has decided to tell you off for no reason and has not acknowledged an apology.

You should proceed with your plans for the shower, have a nice time, and give this future in-law the opportunity to get it together. If she continues being dominating and demanding, you should feel very sorry for your daughter. She could be in for quite a ride with a mother-in-law who is both reactive and rude.

Dear Amy: Thank you for publishing your advice that people should be patient with families who are desperately trying to reschedule special events (such as weddings) that had to be postponed due to the pandemic.

Rescheduling our daughter’s wedding has been a challenge, to say the least.

– MOB

Dear MOB: Yes! I hope you will also accept some guests’ confusion or questions with equanimity.

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(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)

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