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Ask Amy: Mom yearns to share sons’ news with her ex

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: In a reply to “Stressed in Suburbia,” you suggested that a woman working from home should ask the neighbor children to keep their voices down during her work hours.

Absolutely not, Amy! The neighbor kids with the trampoline aren't in a space that isn't theirs; they're not being destructive or misbehaving. They aren't doing anything except being kids.

Stressed can shut her window and invest in some noise-dampening curtains, but she absolutely may not set boundaries on when and how kids play in their own yards.

– Upset

Dear Upset: I didn’t suggest that she ask them not to play, but I do believe that asking them to be aware of how noisy they are is worth a try.



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