Ask Amy: Man’s presence in porn video worries ex-friend
Dear Upset: The person to contact is the person who is actually in the video, not his wife. It doesn’t seem to have occurred to you to do that.
Why should his behavior harm her reputation, and how can she alter or fix what he has done? (It shouldn’t, and she can’t.)
So far, this video has been shared through a mutual friend; don’t attempt to solve this problem by spreading it further, and don’t involve more people. Put this information into the hands of the person who has the greatest incentive (and the responsibility) to deal with it.
If this was uploaded without his (and the other person’s), knowledge and permission, then – yes – he should contact the site’s administrator and insist that it be removed.
Dear Amy: I am irritated with both my husband and 22-year-old daughter.
Our daughter’s girlfriend recently moved in with us for a trial run. She has a pet rabbit that she brought with her.
I shared my concerns about a rabbit living in the house with everyone, but my husband and daughter assured me it would be fine.
The rabbit had already chewed some baseboards in the house, but I went along with their wishes.
A few weeks later, my husband called to let me know that the girlfriend had bought another rabbit to keep the first rabbit company.
She had spoken with my husband, and he approved the second rabbit without asking me. I texted the girlfriend and told her that the second rabbit was not OK with me.
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