Ask Amy: Crumpled friendship could be smoothed out
Dear Disoriented: In a perfect world, we would never need to smooth out a piece of crumpled paper in order to reread what’s written upon it; we wouldn’t need to accept an apology; we would never face the necessity of forgiving someone.
However, the world is not perfect. No one’s story (yours included) can be read on pristine paper.
I think it’s possible that “Judith” has changed. She is being honest, contrite, and apologetic. She is extending a hand. You have firmly anchored to your disappointment. I wonder if this is the kind of person you want to be.
In short, yes, I do think you need to rethink your approach to friendship (this one, and perhaps others, as well).
This re-evaluation doesn’t mean that you must re-enter Judith’s life, but most disappointments offer opportunities for growth. Judith may have grown. Have you?
Dear Amy: Today my English teacher told me about you. She suggested that I reach out for some advice.
My real concern is that I’m planning to go to college next year, but I don't know what I'm going to study yet. I'm excited about studying, but the current situation within the pandemic is not the greatest.
I don't feel ready to go to university.
What do you think is best? Should I make plans to go to college, or should I take a gap year?
— Confused about College
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