Ask Amy: Couple stuck in limbo over decision to have children
I have worked in health care and although I have seen/heard just about everything, his comment absolutely crossed a line.
We were invited over recently for a picnic. I couldn’t bring myself to go, because the thought of spending time with that man made me sick!
Am I overreacting when I say I don’t want to be around that man?
Should I believe his behavior was due to a recent health emergency and/or the resulting medication?
Confused
Dear Confused: During my own episodes with taking care of various family members, I have heard sweet little old ladies make statements in the ICU that would curl your hair.
A stroke affects the brain. Medication also affects thinking and behavior.
If your boyfriend says that this sort of comment is totally out of character for his father, then I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt, until further experience either refutes or confirms your first impression.
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