Ask Amy: Young marriage faces old problems
Conflicted in Vancouver
Dear Conflicted: Your sister’s lifestyle does not depend on you hosting her. If you didn’t host her, she would find another way to accomplish what she needs.
You should only ask yourself whether you and your wife want to see her. Everything else aside -- if you do, then welcome her.
All you have to do to change this dynamic is to say “no,” one time: “We’re not going to host you this season, but maybe next time.” You don’t need to make up an excuse, or supply a reason. In beautiful Vancouver, it would be easy for your sister to rent a room for a couple of nights.
Dear Amy: Thank you for offering actual practical advice to “Grieving Daughter,” regarding her smoking addiction. When I read her question, I assumed you would just say, “Quit!”
Ingesting some nicotine while I quit was the only way I could do it. Thank you for suggesting that.
Former Smoker
Dear Former: Many people did NOT like that I recommended gums, patches, and vaping as things to try, while quitting cigarettes. I don’t think any of them were former smokers (I am).
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