Ask Amy: Boyfriend sees jealousy as a dare to cheat
Worried Aunt
Dear Worried: You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Trust, but verify,” – first popularized by Ronald Reagan regarding Russian nuclear disarmament.
Ideally, marriage should not start out with this level of skepticism, but – fortunately, this matter is really none of your business, so – whew! What a relief; you needn’t worry about it.
Dear Amy: “Shylingual,” wondered if it was OK for her, a white woman, to practice her Spanish with Spanish-speaking people.
I am a housekeeping manager at a high-end retirement community and my entire staff has come to this country at some point in their lives.
English is not their native language, so whenever one of our elderly residents speaks to them in their native tongue, these ladies just light up.
I’ve seen them excitedly tell their fellow countrywomen about the experience.
These wealthy elderly residents and the immigrant housekeeping staff may not have much in common, but when they make a connection with something as common as language, it’s a beautiful thing.
Shylingual should keep trying to make that connection. We should all be brave enough to do something to help break down barriers, especially at this time.
Love My Job
Dear Love My Job: I’ve received hundreds of responses to this question – most agree that any attempts at connection are important.
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