Ask Amy: Distance and disease rattle relationship
— Klueless in Kentucky
Dear Klueless: It sounds as if you live nearby your in-laws. I think you should take your daughter to their home. Your husband should call and ask his mother to come to the front door at a specific time. He can tell her, “We’re going to do a drive-by visit, because we miss you.”
Bring a sign (“love you, Nana”) that your daughter can hold as she waves to her grandmother from a safe distance away.
This is the best you can do right now.
You could also send your mother-in-law a care package containing photos and your daughter’s handprint — little mementos that she can touch and keep, as reminders that you care and that you hope to be together soon.
Dear Amy: You were WAY too nice to “Cold Feet,” whose future in-laws were challenging, high-maintenance types.
I would have told her to quit being an obnoxious brat and learn some people skills.
It’s been said, “A woman marries a man thinking he’ll change. A man marries a woman thinking she won’t change. They’re both wrong.”
I don’t even want to think about what this gal will become once she’s married.
— Disgusted
Dear Disgusted: Hopefully — if she follows my advice — it won’t come to that.
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