Ask Amy: HOA president can't calm down callers
-- Overly Caring Ex-girlfriend
Dear Overly Caring: "Travis" does not sound like a good bet. All of his lesser qualities (the cheating, lying, etc.) are likely to be amplified in prison.
You are probably not the only woman who cares about Travis, and it might help you to assume that he probably has other pen pals.
It is kind of you to get in touch, but if your contact with him compels you to put the brakes on your own progress and personal development, then you are basically incarcerating yourself along with him. That would not be good for you.
Dear Amy: Like thousands of others who have loved ones in nursing homes and other health care facilities, we haven't been able to see our 89-year-old mom since March.
She was in good health and mentally sharp until January. She's been back and forth between the hospital and rehab many times since then.
She went from being mentally sharp to having trouble with a simple phone call.
Someone from the family was with her every day until the lockdown. This is a nightmare for us.
Well-meaning friends call to ask how mom is doing, and then proceed to give advice, and - worse -- describe similar events leading up to their mothers' deaths.
I've had to tell them to stop. I can't talk about someone dying right now. I am grateful for their friendship, but I am worn out and heartsick.
-- Please Stop
Dear Please: This is heartbreaking. Yes, please stop.
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(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
