Ask Amy: High school senior is missing a lot
What do you think?
-- Wondering Parents
Dear Wondering: Your husband doesn't have a relationship with his (first-born) children. Despite the challenges surrounding the divorce, he could have made overtures to them in adulthood - much as your daughter has done.
Your daughter's relationship with her half-sister has quite naturally expanded to include other family members. It is not surprising that you would both feel threatened by this. In addition to "sharing" your daughter and grandchild with another parental figure, your husband may fear that an alternate version of this long-ago history may emerge.
You have no choice but to accept this relationship, even if it bothers you. Eventually, the two halves of your husband's history may become more integrated, and this would be a good thing for everyone in the family.
Dear Amy: Like "Annoyed," my children were also concerned about my social media ranting, so I simply used the tools on the site to limit my "rants" to people who share my views.
I can still include my family in my other posts. I can also block posts from people who push my buttons. I suggest Annoyed's mother should do the same.
-- Survivor of Family Intervention!
Dear Survivor: Good advice.
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