Ask Amy: Neighbor's gathering creates COVID risk
-- Complacent
Dear Complacent: You're 30 years old. Your parents should not be passing judgment on your outfits -- or your professional prospects. Certainly, at this moment, when much of the country is out of work, you all should appreciate your luck and steadfastness.
"You're not ambitious enough," and "You're too complacent," are not back-handed compliments - they are definitive judgments on how you move through the world.
Your emerging adulthood is a transition time for your folks. They might be struggling to let go. Give them a nudge.
You can respond: "Mom, Dad, I love you both. I'm doing great. I'm happy. I've got this. Now... can you do me a favor and step back?"
Dear Amy: "Annoyed" reported that her mother has taken to political diatribes on Facebook many times a day.
I had a parent who also did this. Cutting them off on social media was the smartest thing I've done lately.
-- No Longer Annoyed
Dear No Longer: Not having exposure to the negativity definitely helps.
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