Ask Amy: Reconnection with woman will disrupt family
Do I just tell my wife I am leaving her? Should I wait for a job in the new city first?
I am conflicted about the how/when/where.
-- No Tiger
Dear Tiger: I've managed to stay sentimental enough about marriage that I would urge you to try to stay with -- rather than flee from -- your family.
All I can say is that there is no easy way to dump your family, certainly if in the course of leaving them you intend to also leave town.
When faced with such a monumental life choice, it is helpful to sit down with a counselor to discuss your intentions. Try this first.
January 2010
Dear Amy: A long time ago, I broke off my engagement, and shortly afterward married another man. We were married for more than 30 years when he died of cancer.
Do you feel it would be inappropriate for me to try to contact my former fiance after 40 years? After I broke our engagement, we had no further contact.
I am curious as to where life has taken him. I would like to drop him a note and offer to meet him for coffee and conversation to catch up.
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