Ask Amy: Excited attendee wants to wear wedding dress
-- Conflicted
Dear Conflicted: Here's more "life as an adult": Relationships wax and wane. You were not asked to be in this wedding because she does not feel that close to you, but she is doing the polite thing and honoring your former closeness by inviting you to witness this important event.
Attending the wedding might (possibly) bring you back into one another's orbit -- but probably not. If your feelings are going to be hurt, then don't attend.
Understand that if you don't attend, your friendship will be over, but it sounds as if it has been over for some time now. Staying home does not make you a "bad person."
Dear Amy: Just like "M", My husband and I never wanted kids and I'm bored by monologues about children.
There's nothing wrong with her, me, or others who feel the same.
I do exactly what you suggest -- politely listen for about one minute, and then head back to my office.
-- No Kids for Me
Dear No Kids: Being polite is not such a heavy lift.
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