Ask Amy: College student learns equation: growth equals change
Other reasons why people look back on the college years with such fondness involve the challenges of diving into your intellect, growing up alongside a diverse group of people, arguing over the great realm of ideas, exploring your spirituality, learning how to live authentically -- and yes, also having sexual experiences.
As a young woman, you have the right (and the duty) to claim your own power, and I want to congratulate you, because what you are going through right now means that you are growing! Growth equals change.
Pretending you don't care about someone is not being "the bigger person." Jealousy is a natural human emotion. Learning to love yourself means that you will treasure your own complex emotions, and you won't beat yourself up for feeling your feelings.
An evolving person who has overindulged (on drink, drugs, food, sex) will have the dawning realization: "Hmmm, this isn't working for me anymore." And that person will then explore behavior, examine motivation, and choose to live differently.
This is your time.
Dear Amy: I caught my fiance cheating! He was sending nasty pictures of himself to another woman. He swears he's never slept with her.
We are supposed to get married in two months! I'm devastated. Everything is already paid for and most of the money that has been spent is money we can't get back.
Please help me. I have no idea what to do.
-- Heartbroken
Dear Heartbroken: I'm so sorry you are going through this.
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