Ask Amy: Dating Prince Charming necessitates love contract
The policy is in place in order to relieve you of the burden of trying to decide whether to disclose your relationship. You have to, and so you should.
Before reporting, you and Prince Charming should make sure you are both aware of the company policy and have read the handbook regarding relationships. You should understand that reporting your relationship might (but might not) necessitate a job shift within the company for him.
You should agree not to engage in professional favoritism or public displays of affection at work.
You should agree to be extremely discreet, and to not discuss your relationship with co-workers, even after signing your "love contract."
Your supervisors and HR professionals face the same challenge regarding your relationship that you two do -- to remain discreet, appropriate, and professional.
Dear Amy: I am 61-year-old, divorced man. I am highly educated and have raised two successful kids on my own. I live alone. My kids live far away, and my only relative is an older brother.
My parents died when I was young and I lived with different extended family until the age of 15, when I became a ward of the court.
During my youth, I suffered severe abuse from my brother.
I'll spare you the details, except it involved getting beaten into unconsciousness. I suffer from GAD and PTSD.
The older I get, the more I resent my brother's cruelty, which nobody knows about except for me. It must appear odd when I skipped the holidays to be alone, but I can't stand being around him.
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